Are You Ready for Unconditional Love?

I’d like to share how unconditional love has come into my reality.  I was married for almost 20 years and now I am single.  I was going along living my life, no major problems when my guidance told me to join these social groups for the purpose of meeting men.  I had no interest in meeting a man.  I’d just come to grips with being single and the thought of dating was not something I was looking forward to.  My guidance told me I would be doing it just for fun, nothing serious.  So I joined two social groups and met lots (over 50) of men in less then 4 weeks!
 
I was amazed.  I asked my single friends if they were getting this kind of response.  Their answers were all, “No, I’ve never gotten that much interest!”  I couldn’t figure out what I was doing to attract that many men!  I’m a 50-year-old black woman for heavens sake!  So I asked my guidance.  They told me that this was all just for fun and I should just see what the men had to offer.  Okay, so I started to look at what I was attracting.  It was amazing!  Men from all different countries, all different races, a wide variety of ages!  Then I began to notice something about most of these men, they had an energy of desperation.  I would respond to their email and in their next email to me they would be calling me darling or sweetheart and telling me how I was the one they had been looking for!  Okay, something is wrong here.  These men didn’t know me at all so how could I be their perfect match?  I found myself judging these men and avoiding their messages.  I was not having fun!  And my guidance was showing me how I was not coming from unconditional love.  When I started responding in the ways I was guided, I started to help some of these men to heal.  As they healed they moved on to other women.  Soon I was down to about 3 men.

To say that nothing has turned out like I expected is definitely an understatement.  I have found that the man I am most attracted to has been an incredible healing exercise for ME. (And I thought my life was just fine!)  His age reminded me of issues I needed to heal, his location was another reminder, his attraction to me was another reminder and there were lots more reminders.  I’m a life coach and healer, I thought that I had unconditional love for myself and for everyone else.  Boy was I wrong!!  It is truly amazing how much programming and conditioning we have to not love unconditionally.  Every time I thought that I had it down pat, something would happen to remind me of how much programming I still have.  We are so programmed that even the people that I know love me tell me I’m crazy because I am working on loving him and myself unconditionally.  Why invest so much time healing issues over a man I have never actually seen?  I do it because I had no idea how I let expectations and old beliefs rule my life.  I’m still learning to let go and live in the moment, even though I’ve been doing this for over 5 months!  I can see some improvement but when I least expect it an old belief will rear it’s ugly head and I have to do more healing work on myself and on him.
 
So my advice to others is to take a good look at your lives and your relationships.  You are a lot deeper then you realize and some of these beliefs go back many lifetimes.  I will say that clearing out the old and coming from unconditional love is very freeing.  I see my life and my relationships in a whole new way.  I have taken back my power and know that my happiness is my choice, not based on circumstances.  I have a higher appreciation for myself and for life.  I also trust my guidance more, they obviously see more than I can.  Getting out of the rut of your old thoughts and beliefs is so very worth it!  I’m even having fun!